What Christmas and the Holidays Mean to Me
Growing up in West Virginia, Christmas meant everything to my mother. In fact, my mother loved Christmas so much that she actually had a Christmas room in her house 365 days a year. I remember going to her house in later years on a hot July day and noticed that her Christmas presents for the next Christmas were under the Christmas tree. She usually finished her annual Christmas shopping by the end of summer.
One year, she added a six-foot high Santa that spoke when you walked passed it. She made Christmas special for all of us. My late mother was the center of the Christmas universe, and I miss her sitting in her favorite chair in her Christmas room. We always celebrated Christmas on Christmas Eve with a several-hour affair, and we always followed a wonderful family ritual that we greatly anticipated.
My father was an executive with the United States Postal Service. Christmas was not his favorite time of year. He had to work overtime throughout the month of December each year. He dealt with numerous headaches as the mail had to go through regardless of the weather. He especially did not enjoy the stress of having his staff deliver millions of pieces of mail by Christmas Eve night. Children wrote thousands of letters to Santa Claus at the North Pole that arrived at the Charleston Post Office.
He worked, for the most part, in an era before ZIP codes, computerization, UPS, etc. Can you imagine the speed of one letter and package being delivered without a ZIP code? I remember watching my late father talk about the numerous truck wrecks because of weather and understood his sleep during Christmas Day when he finally received a day of rest.
While both parents viewed Christmas from different perspectives, they strived to make the holiday special for my three sisters and me. I will always remember their kindness and concern for us. Not only did they make our holiday special, but they always showed me it was better to give than receive. I found out very early in life that I loved the feeling of giving. It felt so much better than receiving.
Duke Haddad, Ed.D., CFRE, is currently associate director of development, director of capital campaigns and director of corporate development for The Salvation Army Indiana Division in Indianapolis. He also serves as president of Duke Haddad and Associates LLC and is a freelance instructor for Nonprofit Web Advisor.
He has been a contributing author to NonProfit PRO since 2008.
He received his doctorate degree from West Virginia University with an emphasis on education administration plus a dissertation on donor characteristics. He received a master’s degree from Marshall University with an emphasis on public administration plus a thesis on annual fund analysis. He secured a bachelor’s degree (cum laude) with an emphasis on marketing/management. He has done post graduate work at the University of Louisville.
Duke has received the Fundraising Executive of the Year Award, from the Association of Fundraising Professionals Indiana Chapter. He also was given the Outstanding West Virginian Award, Kentucky Colonel Award and Sagamore of the Wabash Award from the governors of West Virginia, Kentucky and Indiana, respectively, for his many career contributions in the field of philanthropy. He has maintained a Certified Fund Raising Executive (CFRE) designation for three decades.