Father of the Bride
[Editor's Note: Duke filed this on Friday but didn't make the deadline for Today in Fundraising — for good reason! I'm making note of it so the time references make sense. Congratulations to you and your family, Duke! Bright blessings to all. — MBG]
For the first and only time in my life, I will be the father of the bride this weekend. I have two children. My son was married 11 years ago to my wonderful daughter-in-law. My daughter's big day is tomorrow.
I laughed at Steve Martin when he was the father of the bride in the movies. I am not laughing this weekend. Being a father of the bride brings a range of emotions into play. I am happy for my daughter and thrilled that she will be joining a new family that she loves.
She has dated my new son-in-law for several years and attends dinners at her future in-laws house almost every Sunday. I'm a little sad as I realize time marches on — whether you like it or not. My daughter has grown into a beautiful young woman. I have been blessed with my own bride of many years. She is my first and only trophy wife. We are both from West Virginia and come from great families. I believe we have set an example of what makes a strong marriage work.
What does this have to do with philanthropy? We educate individuals in this profession on a daily basis. That said, I have never read one article about what families of development professionals experience. Their love, sacrifice and dedication are amazing. A typical development professional is away from home on nights, weekends and even days off. It is expected in their roles. Last week, I had to work on a "day off" plus a Saturday and missed being with my family on a weekend.
F. Duke Haddad, EdD, CFRE, is currently associate director of development, director of capital campaigns and director of corporate development for The Salvation Army Indiana Division in Indianapolis, Indiana. In addition, he is also president of Duke Haddad and Associates, LLC, and freelance instructor for Nonprofit Web Advisor.
He has been a contributing author to NonProfit PRO for the past 13 years.
He received his doctorate degree from West Virginia University with an emphasis on education administration, master’s degree from Marshall University with an emphasis in public administration and a bachelor’s degree from West Virginia University in business administration, with an emphasis in marketing/management. He has also done post graduate work at the University of Louisville.