My Secrets to a Fabulous Party!

I always have terrific food at my parties, and lots of it! At my annual Christmas party in Raleigh, N.C., we are frying oysters out on the back deck and bringing them into the house. People love it!

I have a local congressman who never misses my parties. He says, "She always has fabulous food!" (He parks himself over the oysters.) Whatever it takes!

4. Beautiful young people. I find that the older folks love to be able to meet and chat with young folks. I love all ages at my parties. The cute younger guests are like eye candy to the old folks. But the young people enjoy meeting older dignitaries a lot too. Every guest has a lot to offer — bring it out of them!

5. Welcoming attitude. This might be the most important thing of all: how people are welcomed and treated when they are at the party. I love to find people who are looking lonely and introduce them to other folks. Give your board members this job: Tell them they need to be hosts and talk to people. (I call this "social ointment.")

When people come in the door, greet them like you haven't seen them in years and you are so glad they are here. Your energy is contagious! Isn't it? I read recently that the most important thing that impacts the success of a party is the attitude of the host. Consider that!

6. Music. Turn the music up at the beginning of the party so it will feel like something's going on. Then turn it down later on so people can talk.

7. Next year's chair. Enlist next year's chair at this year's event. People will be feeling happy and will be in the middle of success and glitz. It's the best possible time to get a "yes!" Give it a try!