Major-Gifts Officers: Do You Have a Confidant?

So, ask yourself that question. Do you have someone who knows you? Do you have someone you can be vulnerable with? Do you have someone who can help you figure out a problem at work, can strategize with you, that "gets" who you are?

Now, one caution here. I'm not talking about having someone whom you gossip with or conspire with against another. That is not healthy for either of you. Nor does it do any good for the organization or the leadership of that organization.

No, what I'm talking about is someone who makes you better. Just like my client who acknowledged that without Mary's help, she would not be as good in her work.

If you are a manager or someone who has influence in guiding the culture of your workplace, you have the ability to nurture an environment that fosters these types of relationships.

Look, there is a lot of pressure on you to perform. It's very competitive out there. Extend your hands, bring someone in and allow yourself to share that pressure with someone else, where both of you ultimately benefit.

You'll be much happier in your work.

—Jeff