A successful planned-giving campaign takes it slow, nrturing relationship with older donors that will far outlive their immediate cash-generating years.

By Mark Walker

Avoid Your Own ‘Senior Moments’ When Dealing With Older Donors

By Karen Jackson
For the most part, development professionals identify older people with planned giving. It’s a privilege and honor to work with them, and the ability to build relationships with seniors can be quite rewarding. But working with this group presents unique issues that, once identified, can be easily attended to. Attention to these matters enhances the cultivation and stewardship process.

General guidelines
People who are older than you are “senior” to you. They’ve lived longer, and for the most part, are wiser. Respect their knowledge, their quirks and the history they’ve lived through.

Always listen. You’ll learn about their families, their ambitions and goals, fears, and accomplishments. This will allow you, at a later date, to make suggestions that better fit their priorities and address their concerns.

Listen the second and third time they share what you think is the same story. These aren’t senior moments; you might be surprised to discover new details about your city and organization.

The eldest donor I’ve worked with — a young 96-year-old — liked to tell the same stories, adding a bit more information with each retelling. Many people ignored him, thinking they’d heard it before. I paid attention and learned he and his family had used the nonprofit’s land in the 1900s before the organization even existed. I questioned him further; he shared vital information regarding the property, community life and location of water wells, which helped the organization better plan for an expansion and garden redesign.

When working with older donors to secure gifts or map out planned giving, remember these considerations:

1. Phone calls and letters
In person or on the phone, annunciate words and speak slowly, but not in an insulting tone. Pay attention to the person’s ability to hear. Is it easier if you stand on one side versus the other? If he can’t hear as well as the last time you spoke to him, did he forget to put in a hearing aid? Your awareness will decrease frustration for all.

When you call elderly donors on the phone, make sure they understand with whom they’re speaking. Many will not connect your name with the organization right away. Be patient.

Answering machines can be frustrating for older people and hard to operate. It’s tough for them to listen to messages and write down numbers. Always repeat your name, number and organization twice.

Whenever possible, use large type in letters, programs, advertising and other printed material directed to the senior audience. If they need to work hard to read it, they won’t.

2. Events
If many older donors are coming to an event, enlist the assistance of co-workers and staff to help with holding umbrellas, opening doors and assisting with coat check.

Offer a reassuring arm to hold when walking indoors on slippery floors or during inclement weather.

3. Driving
Offer to get the car, or even to pick up older donors for an event. Many don’t drive or aren’t comfortable driving in rush hour, darkness or inclement weather and appreciate the opportunity to get out at a time when they normally couldn’t.

Parking can be bothersome to older people as well. Can you reserve spots close to the entrance? Can you pay for parking? Is the parking area difficult to traverse, and is it well lit?

4. Timing
When planning a program months ahead, pay attention to the time the event starts and ends. Does it coincide with dusk, bad-weather months or rush hour (real or perceived)? Don’t forget spring and fall savings-time changes.

Early-morning (7:30 a.m. to 9 a.m.) start times are great for business people but difficult for older donors. Many move slower and need time in the morning to get going, get ready and take medications.

5. Physical comfort
One way to sour relations is to make donors physically uncomfortable. How long will attendees have to stand? How far will they have to walk? Are there steps? Is there an elevator for large groups? How long is the total tour? Are there places to sit and rest along the way, and does the program allow for it? Can donors get in and out easily?

Is it difficult to hear? Is there an echo? Can donors see any slides or props? Can you designate the seats best suited for hearing and seeing for older donors?

6. Meals
Serve food that older people are able to eat without difficulty. Remember, taking a bite out of a large sandwich can be tricky. On the other hand, foods like pasta and others that can be cut are easier.

During my first few months in planned giving, I ordered food for an important donor, who had mentioned how hungry he was and that he was looking forward to lunch. I noticed he wasn’t eating much, and then I saw he had a difficult time eating the sandwich and his hands were too shaky for soup. He was a bit embarrassed, was barely able to eat and left hungry.

7. Follow-up
If possible, give older donors a small thank-you-for-coming gift. They’ll keep it themselves or pass it on to friends and grandchildren. Follow up with thank-you calls and letters. Give them an opportunity to voice an opinion. Opinion gathering, by phone or visit, is a wonderful opportunity to get constructive feedback on what worked while also serving as a cultivation method.

These are just some matters to consider. Your ability to proactively put yourself in the shoes of an older person will lead to more successful visits, stronger donor relationships and more completed gifts.

And remember, one day the tables will turn and you’ll be the older and wiser “senior.”

Karen Jackson is the founder of Results in Giving Ltd., which facilitates charitable gifts by providing guidance, assistance and implementation with fundraising, friend-raising, planned giving and symposiums. She is a member of Planned Giving Mentor’s National Board of Consultants and can be reached at karen@resultsingiving.com.

Having worked with three nonprofits over the past 17 years has taught me the importance of identifying and nurturing one of the most significant resources of any organization — its older donors. Cultivating these donors enriches their lives and allows them to have a positive impact on their favorite charities beyond their cash-generating years.

Properly approaching older donors is contingent on a respect for them and their needs, as well as an appreciation that those needs, and their ability to help an organization, will change as they grow older. In order for an organization to realize the long-term value of its older donors, its staff must be willing to promote a carefully cultivated relationship, which occurs over donors’ entire involvement with the nonprofit — not just during the period when they can generate immediate cash gifts.

I’ve been very fortunate at the three organizations I’ve worked with — World Neighbors, Food for the Hungry and MAP International, all of which have a large number of donors 65 years or older and whose founders were still alive during my time of employment. This allowed me to identify the donors who had good relationships with the founders and those who might have been ignored over the years because they hadn’t provided any “major” gifts.

One such couple, John and Amy, had been recruited by one of the founders more than 40 years ago because they had a business background and the nonprofit needed someone to market its programs on the West Coast, which the couple did for a number of years. Next, the founder asked them to go to Europe and set up a program there.

When they were ready to retire, John and Amy moved to Arizona, which is where I met them. I spent time asking about their history with the founders, which values of the organization they appreciated the most, and which of their accomplishments in working with the agency they were most proud of. Since they had a long history with the nonprofit, I asked for their help meeting some of the donors they knew and with whom they could help open a door for me. Later, I brought in some of our key staff, including our chief executive officer, to meet with them and thank them for their commitment.

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